You’ve Gotta Get Back in to Get Back Out:
Leaving a Relationship is Hard To Do
One of the hardest tasks we face in a relationship is leaving. A more difficult undertaking is staying out. Each time we go back in and find ourselves in the same stuck place, we become stronger in our conviction to leave once and for all. Although this can be a painful realization, we’ve seen, once again, the impossibility of the relationship and the necessity for it to end. Sharon Rivkin is available to discuss five considerations about getting back in to get back out:
- You are not stupid or crazy to go back in – just human.
- Don’t be hard on yourself – that just weakens you.
- Go back in with consciousness, observing and learning again what doesn’t work. This makes you stronger.
- There are no time lives about when you should be done.
- Sometimes if you don’t go back in, it can take even longer to really let go.
The opinions above relate only to individuals in non-abusive relationships, and DO NOT apply to individuals in abusive relationships. Any individual who is currently involved in an abusive relationship, or is contemplating leaving or returning to an abusive relationship, should seek professional help immediately.
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Bio of Sharon Rivkin
Sharon M. Rivkin, Marriage and Family Therapist, and author of The First Argument: Cutting to the Root of Intimate Conflict, has worked with couples for 27 years. Her unique insight into the first argument was featured in O: The Oprah Magazine and Reader’s Digest, and has attracted people throughout the United States and abroad for consultation, workshops, and courses. For more information on Sharon Rivkin and her book, or to contact her, visit www.sharonrivkin.com.