Does this sound familiar?
“I just found out my spouse is cheating. I feel like I could die. Everything has changed. I can’t go on, let alone go to work. How it will affect my kids? I feel paralyzed. I just can’t believe this has happened. What am I going to do?”
- Are you scared your spouse is cheating on you?
- Did you find out your spouse has cheated on you?
- How do you deal with it, and what do you do now?
How do you get through the devastation, aloneness, and betrayal that the affair has caused?
As an Affairs Expert and from my 28 years as a Marriage Family Therapist in Santa Rosa, California, I’ve heard these questions many, many times before. I understand that in one single moment, your whole life has changed. Dealing with infidelity or living with a cheating spouse is one of the most horrible, life-altering events that can happen, and my words can’t even touch what I know you’re going through. You have every reason to feel devastated and lost. You might even feel like you’re going crazy, but there aren’t a lot of other ways to feel right now. What you really need in this moment are survival skills to help you make it to your job tomorrow…or take care of your kids…or even cook tonight’s dinner, and address the queasiness in your stomach that makes you cringe every time you think about it. I understand that it’s hard to move at all.
Thoughts and questions are scrambling through your head. “What am I going to say to my friends, my kids, and my family? I feel ashamed, like somehow it’s my fault. But I know it’s not my fault! I don’t know what I feel! I just want to run and hide from this horrible, horrible pain. But I can’t. I have to function. How am I going to do that? How will I cope with my cheating spouse? Is it possible to recover from any affair, save my marriage, forgive my spouse’s infidelity, and regain the trust? Or should I leave?”
I’m here to help you. I want to say that again, I’M REALLY HERE TO HELP YOU. You’re not alone. You will recover from this affair. I’m going to lead you out of your panic so you can function. When you’re panicked, it’s easy to make bad decisions and big mistakes, and I don’t want you to do that. I know how to help you get through what seems like the most devastating pain you’ve ever experienced in your life. Read more.
TAKE A BREATH, SLOW DOWN, AND LISTEN…